A mismatch in your commitment levels doesn’t have to be cause for panic, but it could be an important thing to discuss together.
Moreover, commitment is not 100% accurate because committed people might leave for other reasons.
It happens to the best of us—you get caught up by someone’s charm, attention, and charisma.
Essentially, it works like this: Commitment’s Predictive Powers Your commitment score is not a perfect crystal ball, but it is a good place to start if you want to predict your relationship’s future.
Commitment is one of the best markers of who will break up and who will stay together in the future, anywhere from three months to a year or two later.
While a lot of other factors contribute to keeping a couple together, we can confidently say that people’s current commitment to their relationship is an important piece of their future decision to stay with their partner or move on.
Commitment would probably be an even more accurate predictor of your relationship’s future status if it weren’t for one thing: Committed people sometimes get dumped. If your partner is less committed than you are, he or she might break up with you, rendering your own commitment a much less relevant factor in your future break-up.
This means that you can measure your commitment at any point in the dating or relationship process and learn something useful about the future. In one study that followed more than 1,700 people for five months, commitment scores collected at the start of the study explained 22% of the difference between the people who stayed together and the people who broke up after the five months.