Sometimes I feel pangs of jealousy when I see conventional families with a mother and a father. I want to be with someone who makes me feel alive and makes my time worthwhile. It means that we have to make our time together a priority. I do not have the luxury of dropping what I’m doing and heading out.
It must be nice to share these experiences with the one other person who contributed in making your child. Even if I have a village of wonderful people to help me, I am the only person that can be the I invest everything in my child and, at the end of the day, I’ve run out of gas. I have to get a babysitter and schedule how long I can be out and when I need to return. But do you know how happy I am when I get that alone time with you? To me, it’s like a romantic getaway, a mini-vacation.
That is a personal decision you should figure out long before you involve a woman and her child in your life.
Save the games for the rest of the single people in the world who do not have the responsibility of looking out for the emotional well-being of themselves and their child. I’m always surprised at how few people discuss this topic upfront.
When I’m upset with you, my kid can feel it in my energy. I have to constantly remind myself that you do not share my responsibilities nor my past experiences.