” That’s what you’re thinking, but what does it say about you that a pm phone call is plenty of notice for a pm dinner date.
They believe there are few good candidates out there, and if they lose this person…they will be crushed! They ask a lot of prying questions, “What did you do last night? ” They stay as close as possible under the assumption that being nearby can prevent their prize from escaping. For the less subtle set there’s the direct question, “What do you think of my jeans? Clearly, it is possible to want too much from a date or a mate.
Of course, nothing could be further from the truth. Downshifting from some overblown list of traits and accomplishments is a wise decision.
They start to toss these requirements overboard one by one. Continuing with our theme of song lyrics, here’s one from Nashville songstress Pam Tillis called, .
They believe that their best years are behind them, and that the only way to be in a relationship is to settle for less. “I knew he didn’t have any money Yeah that’s why he couldn’t buy me a ring Oh and just because he bought himself a brand new pickup truck Really didn’t prove anything And he never had to say he loved me I could see it every time he smiled Just call me Cleopatra everybody, ’cause I’m the Queen of Denial” When you are desperate for love you’ll take a lot of gruff.
Desperation isn’t pretty, and if you’re the one feeling slightly under pressure it can be hard to know the difference between reasonable pro-activity and sad, demeaning behavior. The first date was terrific and he hasn’t called in four days, so you’re a little bit worried that he isn’t as enthusiastic as you are. The phone rings, it’s him and he says, “What are you doing right now? If you want to be completely honest with the caller you could say, “I don’t accept dinner dates 10 minutes before dinner,” but the kinder, less aggressive way to teach this person that you have too much of a life to be available at the drop of a hat is to say, “I’m busy tonight, but let’s set something up for this weekend.” If you choose to answer this call and say, “Sure, I’m free.