This expectation-reality gap often gives rise to feelings of rejection and hurt in people.
The first step to avoid unwarranted feelings of rejection is to acknowledge this difference. Don’t expect that she’ll accept (in which case you’ll feel rejected if she doesn’t), but don’t expect that she’ll reject either (in which case, you might be so under-confident while asking her out that she might reject you anyway! Instead, tell yourself this: “There are two possible outcomes of this situation.
However, even if you’re being highly objective, it’s just that she might need something different from what you’ve got to offer.
In any given situation, two people can never think or react in exactly the same way. Hence, it’s not only possible but in fact likely, that people will behave differently from how you expect them to behave.
In other words, how you would’ve behaved if you were them in a certain situation.
When someone deliberately excludes you from any of these, your brain tells you that you’re experiencing rejection. It feels lousy, especially in the context of a romantic relationship. So, does that mean there’s no way to alleviate your pain of rejection? You can’t wish away the pain of rejection, but you can control when you feel rejected.
The psychological term for this type of rejection is Social Rejection. Here are 7 proven steps to do just that: Each person in this world has a different reality.
She could be already seeing someone else, or she might need different qualities in a potential date/boyfriend than the ones which I have.” As you can see, this reasoning exercise achieves two goals.