I told him I just met him and wouldn’t do that (while I know it would be amazing).His texts slowed down, he doesn’t call, and even after our last amazing date he was logged on to the dating site for the next couple days.Thnx for the advice, I’m bn wondering what I was doing wrong..
I think you’ll see that all of the so-called neediness was rooted in a fear of losing him.
Now, why you had that fear is going to be something you’ll have to answer for yourself.
I can’t go into as much depth as I’d like to in this post, but men and women have different senses of how they’d like to be noticed for things (and what they’d like to be noticed for.) At the root of it, when a man feels like he make a woman happy, he will not want to be in a relationship with her (or if he stays, he will not want to deepen it). Back to neediness: When a woman starts acting needy, especially in the beginning of a relationship, it shows up as the ultimate red flag. Neediness is synonymous with ’emotional dependency’, as in: “This woman is dependent on the guy in order for her to feel good.” Now, sometimes when I start explaining this, I’ll get a comment saying, “Oh so what? You can have it all, too, but what I’m trying to explain in this article is that you don’t get it from it.
On the other hand, when a woman acknowledges him for all the things he’s doing well, he will almost certainly want to deepen the relationship and stay in it. We’re supposed to be emotional robots with no feelings or desires and just accept anything a guy is doing without complaint? You create a relationship with those qualities by inspiring those things within the relationship.
Sometimes the choice is to not choose a guy like that.