Reaching a serious relationship level can take time in the Netherlands because the Dutch can be cautious with letting newcomers in, whether it’s a friendship or partnership – this is not necessarily personal as much as it is part of common Dutch personality traits.
But it’s not impossible – many foreigners report happy relationships and marriages with Dutch nationals.
Either way, be prepared that a date is not always going to be free ride, nor will free drinks in bars be that forthcoming from Dutch men.
The Netherlands has less of a dating culture than other countries, for example the US or UK.
There are less ‘rules’ about when to call back, kiss or spend the night, and actions are based more on instinct rather than an unwritten play book.
Playing hard-to-get and silly games have little value in the Netherlands but confidence and being to-the-point rank high.
Of course, you might get a flat-out rejection but you won’t waste your time where it’s not appreciated.
Some report the Dutch avoid making ‘real’ connections with foreigners, making it difficult to get past the first Dutch dating hurdle and settle down.