I’ve dated the “modern man” and let me just say, it left a LOT to be desired.
People even become addicted to the rev of “busyness,” making withdrawal downright scary.
So how do you let your body relax AND bring your mind to rest with it? Before you even try to walk away from the bustle of the day, take five minutes to “capture” any loose ends on to-do lists and calendars. You will not lose your edge and, in fact, you’ll actually be more productive if a few times each day, you bring your mind and body back to a more relaxed state.
The alternative to this bullshit is, of course, to go ahead and text first. You end up looking desperate, lonely, obsessed, cat-lady-like, too eager, impatient, stalker-esk? If the date goes well, you would expect the texting to increase from this point. They’re considered “traditional” and “old school.” But, perhaps you did go on a date with a “traditional man” and mind games are now commencing. These gentlemen may be more inclined to calling, which means you can simply re-read this article and replace to get the same point. I don’t have THE answer to this problem, because the answer actually changes depending on the connection, your emotional status, and your expectations prior to and after the date. Or, perhaps the romance movies are NOT bullshitting us and the right one will text at the right time.
What complicates matters more are pre-existing patterns, modern gender roles, and generational differences. A man who’s self-confidence equals or may even overshadow my own.
Thinking back, I’d rather get punched in the face and kicked in the balls than going through the same crap again with a woman. Before we go into that, there’s something that I want you to know…