Men vastly underestimate how risky it can be for women to interact with dudes they don’t know, and the consequences of that reality. I mean, .) Perhaps contrary to popular belief, your job on a dating app is not to stand out, but rather to signal to someone that you’re not going to Buffalo Bill them.Yes, hot is important, but don’t underestimate the power of giving off a Nice Guy With Normal Interests Who Showers kind of vibe. A catfish, who got that photo off of someone else’s Linked In. Being from Missouri, I know that guns are “a thing” for some men (and women), but for the majority of people swiping on you it reads as a future murder weapon.
—ask a friend to take one of you the next time you guys Do A Thing.
That can be brunch, a friends wedding, a baseball game—anything that offers an opportunity for good, natural lighting.
Do not try to be clever, or overly familiar, e.g., “You look exactly like my next girlfriend.” Try opening with a question, and no, “wyd rn ;),” doesn’t count.
Go with something fun and off-beat like, “Do you think people should make their beds every morning? ” You’re previewing what it’s like to hang out with you; you don’t want to come off as creepy, overly-sexual, or lazy.
Said picture must not be blurry; If you only have a low-res Myspace ass photo of yourself, that’s what we in the business of sleeping with men call a red flag.