Succeeding in combat defines a warrior, places him in a brotherhood where he is always welcome and understood. It would be easy for him to die for you because he loves you.
The civilian world has its adrenaline junkies as well; just ask any retired firefighter, police officer, or emergency room staff if they miss it. Living for you, which is what you actually want, is harder for him.
) 3 years as I talk to more and more military significant others who have successful relationships. Some of us genuinely like it; others of us put up with it because it is a condition of being attached to the person we love.
And I want to be clear: those of us who date or marry someone in the military are no better or worse than any other significant other.
You should not join the military merely to meet military men--but if you are looking for one, this may be your best option. You can find a job there, meet people who work there, or go to an event there.