You don’t have to go over the top (on a first date, that’s actually a really bad move), but make sure you know where you’re headed.
Otherwise, things are going to get really awkward, really quickly.
If you offer to pay and she refuses to let you…go along with it. Let’s say that you’ve known your date for a while, and you’re excited to finally take her out.
But don’t try to hash out all of your ideal relationship attributes over a single cup of coffee.
Don’t ask about whether she’s planning to have kids, where her career’s going, or whether she’s picked out her wedding dress yet. You should also be careful not to talk about past relationships.
“For example, be thoughtful and suggest a restaurant based on previous conversations.
This shows that you are a good listener.” Guys will often insist on paying, but some women aren’t into that.
Even when you’re on the same side of a politically charged issue, bringing it up will remove that feeling of whimsical excitement that comes with a really well-planned date. If you asked her on the date, it’s your job to do some planning.