See my previous post “Should a Christian husband make his wife submit? Some Christians, both complementarians and egalitarians, have attempted to argue that since we have no examples of Christ disciplining his bride (which is the Church) that husbands ought not to discipline their wives. Throughout the Scriptures God pictures his relationship with his people in two primary ways.The Bible pictures our relationship with God as individuals as that of a Father and his children.It might invoke images of husbands standing over their wives yelling and screaming at them and using all kinds of obscenities.
Even some Christian complementarians and others who believe in male headship in marriage reject the husband’s right and responsibility to discipline his wife.
They do so based on their belief that while a wife is commanded by God to submit to her husband, this is a voluntary submission on her part and cannot be compelled from her husband.
The first and most common argument against Christian husband’s disciplining their wives is the belief that a husband and wife are equal partners in marriage.
The Bible does not show marriage as a partnership, but rather a Patriarchy (male lead hierarchy).
Even as a betrothed bride, Christ disciplined his Church through his Apostles who acted as the protector and guides of his bride. I promised you to one husband, to Christ, so that I might present you as a pure virgin to him.” – II Corinthians 11:2 (NIV) “What do you prefer?