If you use the phrase, “Don’t marry her for her potential,” in a discussion, it’s considered pro-level wisdom. You’re marrying him because his unflinching honesty thus far suggests a lifetime of honesty and vulnerability in your relationship. A good choice today doesn’t solidify a good choice tomorrow. Women have a tendency to date “fixer uppers” in order to feel needed.
You’re marrying her because her heart posture has the potential to sustain a 60 year marriage. What we really should be focusing on are the qualities that indicate good long-term potential. Guys tend to overlook obvious deficiencies because… But neither of these issues are properly addressed by saying, “Don’t marry for potential.”Even if someone is a master of being single, marriage introduces a fat new batch of troubles (aka “growth opportunities”) to work out. You have an entire life ahead of you, so yes, it’s okay to marry someone for their potential to partner with you in living that life healthily and successfully.
I’d rather be with someone ignorant who has a heart to learn than an expert who’s convinced she has all the answers. This is a favorite line of everyone who thinks their dating advice poops golden little marriage eggs.
Everyone has advice to offer, and it’s usually the ones with the most ridiculously screwed-up relationship history that are most confident in raining that advice ceaselessly upon you.(Before I rile up too much teen spirit, let’s start with Prov and Prov . In our celebrity-loving Christian culture, anyone with a success story is ready to create a new theology or teaching to sell to the Body of Christ. What worked or failed for them won’t always give you the same results.
Since you’re reading this on the internet, it’s probably true and should be shared repeatedly on your Facebook wall (actually you really should go ahead and share this right now… Identifying myth from fact can be difficult, and that’s why we’ve gone ahead and done all the heavy lifting for you. By this theory, the only way to really master the art of dating is to not do it.