In fact, spending time with people and getting to know them is completely good and healthy.
Rather than assuming or expecting a deeper relationship right away, we need to learn to value people first and foremost for who they are and for the genuine fellowship they can provide without any extra strings attached.
Only once we’ve done that will we be prepared for a solid, healthy relationship when and if the right one does come along.
I’d be lying if I said the thought of dating her never occurred to me at all; again, society pressures us to be always on the lookout, and my analytical mind can’t ignore the possibilities.
Still, I didn’t make it my immediate goal to get close to her for the purpose of dating her.
And, without real-life interaction and companionship, those expectations too easily lead to hurt and disappointment.