In working with a lot of men, here are a few I’ve noticed: 1) They *THINK* their ‘look’ is strong, when in fact it is boring and average 2) They *THINK* their body language is solid, but when they approach a woman they show blatant signs of neediness and nervousness 3) They *THINK* they have decent breath, but in fact it stinks (more common than you’d think unfortunately) 4) They *THINK* their lifestyle is strong andÂ socially-focused when, in fact, it is average, anti-social and uninviting to women (this one’s complex…and very, very common) And the biggie…
5) They *THINK* that learning ‘pick-up’ skills will help them to meet women, when in fact their results are barely improving (if at all).
They seek this by bragging about themselves and their accomplishments. People who brag are trying to convince themselves and you of their greatness. They may manipulate you with flattery, belittling, or threats.
Their lack of empathy may show when planning a date.
By definition, we might be unable to diagnose ourselves.
But, if we can generate an interesting discussion on blind spots we have noticed in OTHERS, we might be helped to take a different look at ourselves. I could be surrounded by multitudes of women, and still feel a sense of panic if this particular girl was showing signs of losing interest.
A relationship with this person will be painfully one-sided, not a two-way street.