They now feel they have to explain everything to you.If you think you know everything from listening to popular media sites, you are in for a rude awakening.Some people adapt somewhat as they become more familiar with someone but I wouldn’t count on it.
That said, there are some differences when you look a little bit closer.
Many of these differences can vary from person to person.
Because you do not have this body dysphoria, it might be a little difficult to understand but if a trans person you are dating tells you an area is off limits, it’s your responsibility to respect that even if this dashes the fantasy you were hoping for.
You really only have two choices, you can either try doing something else or choose to date someone else who does not have this issue.
Just like dating anyone else, you need to understand and respect their needs because there is more to them then what you want or need.